Playground Chatter!

Playground Chatter

There come a moment in every little girl’s life when she gets teased on the playground and runs to her mom with eyes filled with tears. Some cruel girl had called the poor thing a name and instantly ruined her entire afternoon at the park. What is a mother to do? Offer advice and a hug that will cradle the girl until all the tears reside and she is ready to go back and play. The mother’s advice is simple, “She is just jealous!”

As you get older and stop seeing your mother as the Smartest Woman Alive, you begin to doubt that powerful yet simple advice she gave. I think most can relate to that little girl and I can too. As I got older, I began to doubt that advice. Now I realize how very true it is.

There are two girls who go to my school named Laquesha and Hildagard (there names have been changed just because). Laquesha really dislikes me because she is quite controlling and I used to be best friends with her then boyfriend, T-bunny. For a really long time I didn’t realize why she disliked me so much, but I have realized that my mother was right! She really just is jealous! She saw my friendship with him as threatening. Considering I have boyfriend as well, I see that as quite dumb.

Hildagard on the other hand does not think that I am chasing after her man. She just doesn’t really like anyone besides her sister. Together, they have an opinion about everyone and everything and they are definitely not afraid to share. One moment they are can be friendly, but the next they are talking loudly about your new shoes right in front of you. I think it is safe to say that they do not have very many friends. They alienate themselves by being cruel and that is 100% their choice.

During my freshman year, Hildagard was really one of my best friends! I looked up to her because she was so much more mature than me. That is why I used to take what they said to heart. But I have since realized just how little what they say matters. Our friendship had ended when she started tearing me down. Why? Because I was no longer the kind of girl who faded into the background and I think she was jealous of that and, just like Laquesha, a little jealous.

It is empowering to be able to hear what people say about me and know that although it once made me want to break down in tears, it no longer has any effect on me! I believe I have my quest to thank for that! :)